Orgasms After Menopause: Is It Still Possible?

Let’s address this question right away: A woman can indeed have orgasms after menopause. It’s a prevalent misconception that menopause signals the end of the ability to orgasm or enjoy a fulfilling sex life. On the contrary, women can continue to experience amazing sex after menopause.

Admittedly, it might require some adjustments and a little extra patience, but the effort is worthwhile.

Let’s check some of the adjustments to your sexual life brought about by menopause and how to balance them with your sex life. 

How Menopause Changes Sex & Orgasm

Menopause brings about significant shifts in hormone balance as estrogen and progesterone levels decrease. Consequently, various physical changes occur, which can make penetrative vaginal sex and achieving orgasm more challenging.

Some of the reasons include:

• Decrease in sex hormones: The decrease in testosterone and estrogen levels can negatively impact your libido. Additionally, the lack of estrogen may lead to vaginal dryness, making penetrative sex painful.
• Stress: Juggling career and marital responsibilities during menopause can lead to stress, causing a low sex drive. Relationship issues, excessive responsibilities, or the loss of a loved one can also contribute to this problem. Stress can be a significant mood killer and affect the enjoyment of intimate activities.
• Hot flashes: As the body experiences physical changes, some women may experience hot flashes during the day or night, disrupting comfort and relaxation.
• Vaginal dryness: Menopause can lead to thinner, drier, and less flexible vaginal walls, reducing natural lubrication. This condition, known as vulvovaginal atrophy, can make sex uncomfortable or painful.
• Pelvic problems: After menopause, the pelvic floor muscles may weaken. These muscles play a crucial role in supporting the bladder, bowel, and uterus and are essential for sexual pleasure. Weaker pelvic floor contractions could lead to less intense orgasms, as research has shown a connection between weak pelvic floor muscles and sex and orgasm issues after menopause.

Enjoying Sex After Menopause

Above all, remember that experiencing less sex or exploring different forms of intimacy during this phase of your life is entirely natural. Your perspective on sex is evolving and maturing, and that can be a positive and empowering process. What truly matters is that you find pleasure in ways that align with your desires and preferences.

As you embrace your menopausal and postmenopausal sex life, consider exploring different and novel sexual experiences. Remember that intimacy goes beyond just penetrative sex. Engaging in touching, rubbing, fondling, oral sex, and mutual masturbation can be equally intimate and pleasurable, helping to release the same incredible hormones that contribute to the enjoyment of sex.

If, after all these, you still find it difficult to orgasm after menopause, we understand that can feel frustrating. Some of the tips below might help.

How Can Women Get Off After Menopause?

Now let’s dig into some practical advice.

• Prioritize touch, kisses, and cuddles: Take your time with foreplay if you feel your libido has been affected. Consider indulging in sensual massages or enjoying a bath together with your partner. Anything that fosters closeness, relaxation, and connection can enhance your sexual experience.
• Use lubrication: Combat vaginal dryness by using lubricants during sex. Opt for water-based or silicone-based lubricants, applying them inside your vagina and on your partner’s penis, fingers, or toys. Be cautious not to use silicone-based lubricants with silicone toys to avoid damaging them, and avoid flavored or scented lubes that could irritate your vagina.
• Pay attention to the clitoris: Stimulating the clitoris remains essential for many women to achieve orgasm. Don’t neglect your clitoris during menopause; it still plays a crucial role in your sexual pleasure. Lube can be helpful here too, and oral sex can provide stimulation and lubrication. Additionally, using vibrators on your clitoris can heighten sensitivity and arousal.
• Embrace relaxation: Remember that the climax isn’t the sole purpose of sex. Enjoying sexual pleasure without reaching orgasm is entirely normal and valid. Taking the focus off achieving an orgasm might even help you get there more easily.
• Communicate With Your Partner: Open communication is crucial when it comes to sex. Let your partner know your desires, needs, and what works or doesn’t work for you. This becomes even more vital if you’re experiencing reduced arousal or any discomfort during menopause. Honest and open communication can strengthen your connection and lead to a more satisfying and enjoyable sexual experience.

Engage in open communication with your partner and share how you’re feeling. Discuss your experiences and emotions together. Explore potential compromises that could enhance your intimacy and pleasure.

For example, you might find that oral sex feels more comfortable and enjoyable than penetrative sex, or you could introduce toys, different positions, and techniques to spice things up and make you feel sexier and turned on.

Remember that your partner may also be experiencing changes and might be concerned about your feelings. Embracing a no-holds-barred approach to conversations about sex can foster emotional connection and intimacy between both of you. 

• Monitor medication side-effects: Be aware that certain medications, especially those used for conditions, such as diabetes, kidney or heart disease, and multiple sclerosis, can influence your sex drive. However, it’s essential not to stop any crucial medication without consulting your doctor first. Have an open conversation with your healthcare provider about your concerns, and explore the possibility of alternative medications that may have a lesser impact on your libido.
• Prioritize your health: Various everyday factors can significantly affect your sex drive. Pay attention to your overall health by focusing on your diet, sleep quality, alcohol consumption, exercise routine, and stress management. Taking good care of yourself can lead to a boost in your libido. 

Conclusion

Achieving orgasms after menopause is attainable, but it might require more patience and experimentation. Take your time exploring and discovering what pleases you. Maintaining openness and relaxation with your partner is essential to creating a supportive and enjoyable environment.

Remember to play and be open to trying new things, as this can lead to exciting discoveries. It’s essential to acknowledge that some experiences may change with age; for instance, if you used to experience squirting, you may find out that it’s not as common now. However, this doesn’t mean your sexual experiences are any less enjoyable or fulfilling.

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